1 Corinthians 7:34-35 "...In the same way, a woman who is no longer married or has never been married can be devoted to the Lord and holy in body and in spirit. But a married woman has to think about her earthly responsibilities and how to please her husband. I am saying this for your benefit, not to place restrictions on you. I want you to do whatever will help you best serve the Lord, with as few distractions as possible.”
We hear it all the time from our loved ones. “When are you going to settle down?“ “I can’t wait for you to find a nice man and have some babies!” The fact of the matter is, you are in your singleness season for a reason! Ecclesiastes 3:1 reads “For everything there is a season, a time for every activity under heaven.” Friends, I say to you, do not grieve your single season! This is the time to cultivate who God has created you to be.
Now I know that this is easier said than done. It’s easy to see your friends getting married and starting families and think, “God, what about me?” But the word tells us to “Be not weary in well doing, for in due season, you shall reap if you faint not.” I truly believe that God gives us the desires of our hearts, as long as it aligns with His will for our lives. So while you wait, wait gracefully! Here are some questions to ask God in your single season:
1) God, what is your purpose for my life?
We all have a purpose. Jeremiah 29:11 declares "For I know the plans I have for you, says the Lord. Plans to prosper you, and not to harm, to give you hope and a future. Your single season is the perfect time to lean into God concerning what He would have you to fulfill in your lifetime. I love how real Paul gets in 1 Corinthians 7. He lays it out that in your single season, you can be fully devoted in body, mind and spirit to the Lord, without distractions.
2) God, what wounds do I need to heal from in this season?
Friend, we've all experienced some things in our lives. There are areas of our lives that God wants to heal before allowing us to join together with another person. Are you holding on to baggage from your past? Do you struggle with sexual sin, trust issues or insecurities? Allow Jesus into the inner most parts of your heart, believing that no one can heal you but Him.
3) God, how can I be more like you?
Genesis 1:27 states that God created human beings in his own image.
However, with the fall of man (Adam and Eve), and over time, man got away from the image that God created us in. Isaiah 55:8 reads "My thoughts are nothing like your thoughts, says the Lord. And my ways are far beyond anything you could imagine." In our search for God, we seek to be more like Christ, in his thoughts and his ways. In your prayer time and studying with God, ask for ways you can model him.
Take some time to get to know you, and truly love you! Keep trusting God for your appointed time of marriage, however, enjoy this time that is just you and Him! You will look back years from now and give Him Glory for this season.
As always, I am praying for you and can't wait to hear what God is doing in your life!